Be a man do the right thing
weee.. such a long time nv do book reflections hor? :P well.. heres jus 1 book perhaps i recommend for leisure reading :D
here hear.. " I moved your cheese" by Darrel Bristow-bovey.
well. its a cheesy bk. v short n simple. n basically its definitely gotta do wif some of the "who moved my cheese ?"( tt was a hot favorite review last yr rite? mayb can find in my blog somewhere last yr --what will u do if u r not afraid? ) but well.. this book here doesnt tok bout any of those mice cheese n men.. well if u find out rite at the end.. there wasnt even any signs of cheese. the cheese was jus there to make u fall for it. well thats about the crux of wat we are going to learn from this bk. :)
"this is a self-help book for ppl who wants to take no step at all" ( a lazy person's guide to helping yourself) --> hey.. i jus tt bit lazy la.. i noe u r too :P but well like the bk highlight.. Say it with me: We are lazy; we are idle; we are downright inert, and we dont gif a damn.
ok.. im not sure bout the wat process "Osmatix" how wisdom pass thru from page to atmosphere etc.. but perhaps tts jus crap.. well de book is not on tt.. alot is crap n humour.. haha.. n there are lots of linkage to current day books.. especially those self-help books. yes.. expect those critics bout george bush or oprah winfrey.. or even tuesdays with morries. then theres even Feng shui lol.
whats so wonderful bout the book is tt it nv really instructs u on waht u should do. well perhaps tts the point the author has been trying to get u to understand. theres no tables, charts or anything tt u should help urself n ensure progress.. well.. this bk is much relaxing.. sometimes jus understanding will do.. self help bks are said to b no good cos they expect u to do all de work. well then theres no point in having such bks.. cos u already noe how. but the fact is.. u dunno how. so here " i moved your cheese" is there to guide u.
well highlights from its chapters..
bout a man being wise jus becos hes climbed up n stayed on top of tt mountain. haha.. in e end it turned out tt the man was indeed wise cos he has learned how to Act wise. tt old man was an award winning author.. we later found out.
" i was expecting the worse, but now tt worst has not arrived, i am dissapointed. i am the architet of my own dismay"
"if we are not afraid of tropical fruits falling on our heads, we will be better able to see the riches in front of us"
"wisdom does not fall from the sky like mangoes. sometimes u need to wrestle with wisdom and put it in half-nelson."
"sometimes it is not necessary to learn wisom by being taught wisdom. sometiems it is enuff merely to b in proximity to wisdom. sometimes wisdom doesnt even have to make sense."
"if you have no wisdom of your own, reading self-help books will not help u. you will have to write them instead"
then theres a story bout the egg.( my fave food! :P) well here.. it is bout ostrich egg... it dated back to a long way to the aborigines.. in de desert.. and hunting elephant was a real achievement. killing it will earn u respect as a real man. it evolves round a young man Xam. who is strong n asked to fight elephants together wif a group of older men. well the older men of cos despise de young one n dislike him. but they set off n cant find any elephant. well u noe.. they used ostrich egg to store water de. so they store water n bury it in the sand. then before they could find elephant.. they met a sandstorm or sth lidat. then they got no water drink.. the young one poor thg cos the rest dun wan share wif him. all de rest of the adults drink finish liao.. den de young one finally found his ostrich egg. here comes the learning pt.. de water in de ostrich egg was spilt but he jus pretended nth happened n help de egg close to him. de others of cos wondered why he wasnt drinking frm the tree. " mayb he noes something we dont". de more Xam kept silent, de more de others were convinced he had a mighty secret. so by de time they reached back their own village. the older ones hung on Xam's every word and click. hence.. de entire village slowly was influenced to respect Xam as well. soon, he became a powerful man of de community, even tho he nv won glory by killing an elephant.
hehe. so wat it shows is that. the secrets of life are here.
the truth is : you dont need to actually accomplish anythg. all u need to noe is how to fake it. Inside us all there is a secret truth to ourselves- a truth tt is hollow, like de egg. [we need to embrace the hollowness, and give ppl the opportunity to persuade themselves that there is sth in there. ] other ppl are even more insecure than we are. they will fill in de secret for u. if u can pull tt off, it doesnt matter how gd or bad u are at anything else. we all need to find tt inner ostrich egg.
well.. de bk oso mentioned bout love ( more for guys to read) n body matters.
" instead of trying to improve youself, reap the benefits of letting others do the improvements for u"and there are some of de "dont says" to a gal.. hehe.. yep.. im not gonna say it here :P
well one thing nv to say is " i was thinking bout how much i love u", more likely u dun want to noe what my answer really was. :)
"provide the blank canvas on which u can paint ur deepest dreams "
" we are lazy, but we are not dumb. it is only the very smart who can get away with being as lazy as we are"
then theres a chapter which provides critics (this bk got alot criticism, tho not really meant to) to the " who moved my cheese".. n hell ya.. sometiems no use jus knowing tt we got to embrace change, adapt urself to new cicrumstances. well.. i agree tt its a mouse way of doing thgs. we are men not mice. it is human behavoir to stop there n dislike changing. (unless u change for a better tt is) who likes changing environments?
if u cant find your cheese, move on. Not to find a new one cos perhaps u cant find anymore, but find sth else u can pretend is impt. pretending it is impt will make it so. it is not the objective tt counts but ur success in finding it.
"success can be manufactured. anything can be faked"
change is inevitable, we jus have to noe how to manage it well. we should even deny the change sometimes. :)
well if u mastered the art of handling the ostrich egg earlier on, then u can be anyone u wan to be.( well cos u can fake rite?) its nth rite to say " be yourself" as u have always here so often. [ Dont feel that you have to be always youself] be someone else if necessary. but you should also learn to accept urself. well.. we dun need to care much. we cant always hide n skulk. we need to reconcile wif our weaker self. jus b proud of urself. make others get use to u.
well.. the bks abt it. its perhaps jus bout faking. now u noe. well.. i din fake this up k. i not so pro :P anyway. im a real person. a real man. try me.
some tips.. gathered frm everywhere...
"stupid is as stupid does, so stop doing stupid things"
"life is a box of chocolates- it is overpriced, will make u sick if u hav it too quickly, and if other ppl see u wif it, they will try to take bits of it away from u"
" think before u speak. Read before u think.Wash ur hands before u read"
"do not waste time thinking if the glass is half full/empty. if its half anythg, time for another round"
" do not jus say no. do not jus do it. say : tts for me to noe, n u to find out. or : maybe,maybe not. well u can choose to say nothing at all "
"always leave the party five minutes before u run out of things to say"
hehee.. tts bout it.. tired le. wow.. hope u learned sth. :D